What Is One Of The First Steps Towards A Sexless Relationship
This year I have been shocked at how many women have told me they have lost their libido and don't want to have sex with their partners anymore.
These are women who I thought were in a very loving relationship with their partners, but they have told me they no longer want to have sex.
There are scientific reasons why sex (especially good sex) makes you feel closer to your partner, so what is happening here?
There are many reasons, but one of the most important is kissing because kissing plays an essential role in relationships.
Many couples in a long-term relationship stop kissing. The long, passionate, erotic kisses you enjoyed at the beginning of your relationship turn into a quick peck on the mouth. Ending the kiss is one of the first steps towards a sexless relationship.
If this is you, then you must take the time out to keep kissing your partner.
The 9-second kiss is a way to ensure that you connect intimately in this way, every day. When you or your partner comes home, make the first contact between the two of you, a kiss – a kiss that lasts for at least 9 seconds – while you tightly hug each other. Make it a juicy, sexy and succulent kiss! Through kissing, you connect. Kissing creates desire. It brings you closer to your partner.
On a physiological level, kissing decreases the levels of the 'stress hormone' cortisol and increases the levels of oxytocin. Oxytocin is a powerful hormone that acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. It influences social interaction and sexual reproduction, playing a role in behaviours from maternal attachment to an infant and milk release to empathy, generosity, and orgasm.
Oxytocin is also known as the 'bonding hormone' because it is responsible for creating the feelings of bonding, connection, intimacy and trust.
If you want to give your sex life a boost, or start having sex again, then give the 9 second kiss rule a go.