How To Break The Body Shaming Habit
Are you satisfied with your body? How you look in the mirror? I hope so, but this is, and I am sad to say, often not the case, especially for women. One of the main reasons is because we’re regularly showered by sculpted physiques and photoshopped models in the media and, unavoidably, women often can’t help comparing ourselves to such standards of beauty, which often leads to many having adverse side effects.
I have a body that has given me the greatest gift a woman can ask for, four beautiful children, but this and age; it has also given me many reasons to shame my body, which is something I used to do often.
So how can you stop shaming your body to accept and celebrate it?
Body shaming is when people unfairly pass judgment on the size or shape of our figures. It’s an issue that many people deal with regularly. But the concept of an ideal body type, which is often ordained by social norms and mass media as being the only “fit” or “healthy” one, is a myth. In reality, there exists a broad spectrum of different body types that can be equally healthy. You don’t have to look like a model to be healthy and fit.
A book I read helped me to be grateful for my healthy body. The book is an eye-opening plea to question and fight against body shaming. It helps us work towards recreating a society that celebrates different shapes instead of shaming them, which is something I see and hear styling clients daily.
Clients worry about telling me the size of their clothes, but due to us all having different body shapes, women the same height and weight can be completely different sizes in clothing. Once I explain this to clients and show them that size doesn’t matter, what matters is that they are purchasing the right styles for their shape, then their confidence grows, and they appreciate their bodies more, instantly.
Instead of shaming your body, try being grateful to your body. This starts with recognising that the harmful thoughts you might have about your body aren’t your own – they are dictated by the media, and they have nothing to do with health. Some of the world’s most beautiful women are healthy rather than thin. One of my favourite quotes is by gorgeous Sofia Loren. One I live by because I love pasta and wine!
“I’d rather eat pasta and drink wine than be a size 0” - Sofia Loren 1965.
One way to fast-track your journey toward loving your body is to limit your media consumption. For example, try to avoid Instagram pages or television shows that portray stereotypical messages about ideal body sizes.
To find out more techniques like the above, read “The Body Is Not An Apology - The Power of Radical Self-Love” by Sonya Renee Taylor. The book teaches you how to overcome the toxic relationship many people have with their bodies with radical self-love. It unravels the mental processes that have encouraged us to dislike our bodies so we can love them instead.
The author helps readers to reconnect with the radical origins of their minds and bodies and create enduring strength. As you awaken to your own body shame, you feel inspired to awaken others and to interrupt the systems that perpetuate body shame and oppression against all bodies.
It is a book I often recommend to clients to read. They begin the journey of self-love during their initial style session and continue the journey with me; often some have been with me for over 15 years. The book is the next step to help them to continue the journey.
Start by watching Sonya in the video below. Making a start is the first step…..just ask any of my styling clients.
Book a free in studio, online or phone styling session with me today. Email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Carolyn (Caz) Rowland is a fashion designer at Cazinc The Label, model, lifestyle blogger and professional Image Stylist. Caz is also a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching. Caz is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.
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