What Would I tell My Younger Self?
We often hear people say, “If I only knew then what I knew now.” We ask ourselves where we would be, what would we be doing and how differently would we feel if we knew then what years of experience has taught us about life.
It is interesting that out of my friends aged fifty plus, most of them feel better about themselves now and say how liberating life is with so many experiences and so much knowledge behind them, and I have to agree with them.
In truth, I am happy to reflect over my life, but if I could tell my twenty-something self a few things, this is what would be on the list.
More confidence and self-love would have to be high on it. Who has looked in the mirror or at photos and thought they were overweight – only to look at the photos years later to see how thin we were! The lesson here for my younger self is to love my body and be grateful for how healthy I am, no matter what size.
My younger self might have had the six-pack stomach and a waistline fit for Chanel, but that girl lacked confidence with styles and often wore what everyone else around her wore to fit in. My style has indeed developed over the years. I love having less in my wardrobe and only wearing quality items that suit my body shape. It makes looking in the mirror easier on the eye as I mature. My younger self did experiment with clothes, good and bad, but I would tell her to learn more about style rather than trying to keep up with the fashion trends.
As a mother, I would have told myself to relax more and enjoy every moment with my children as they grow up too fast and not to worry what pregnancy was doing to my body shape. Now I look at my so-called body “flaws” with pleasure. I feel so grateful for the tummy I have today that gave me the best gifts of my life, my four beautiful children.
As I mature, I have learnt to become more adventurous and take more risks. I would tell my younger self to travel more, explore the world and embrace the many different cultures. I would tell my younger self to be more of a risk taker, embrace uncertainty and enjoy the adventures.
With studies, it took me until my late 30’s to embrace learning. I am now always exploring, learning and trying something new. I would tell my younger self to stay at school, go to university and never stop learning. It doesn’t matter what you learn, but always be open to it. “Be green and growing, not ripe and rotting” as the old saying goes.
The reality is I am now in my 50’s and loving life to the max. I am what I am and always want to be my best self every moment. My goal for today and the future is not to regret any of my past as I know that every event from my past has shaped who I am today.
Today I am a woman who has the wisdom to know how not to grow old but to grow better. To live a balanced life rather than trying to make everything perfect. I embrace the new opportunities sent to me daily and live my best life, every day. I value everything that I used to take for granted and feel blessed with my beautiful family and friends. I can’t change how I lived my past, but I can change anything about the future.
I am strong; I am invincible, I am woman!
What would you tell your younger self? And how do you feel about life now compared to when you were younger?
Carolyn (Caz) Rowland is a fashion designer at Cazinc The Label, model, lifestyle blogger and professional Image Stylist. Caz is also a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching. Caz is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.
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