Let's Ignite The Fire Back Into Your Relationship
Being in a long-term relationship can be fabulous. You get to know someone, to develop a close bond with a life partner and to act entirely comfortably and completely yourself around them. The longer you’ve been with a partner the more you will know how to make one another happy, and the more secure you will feel knowing that they’re going to stick with you through thick and thin.
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t from time to time miss the spark of a new relationship. When you’re dating someone new you will get the excitement of learning about them and trying to make a good impression. When you’re dating someone new, they seen cool and mysterious and it’s incredibly sexy. You also get to craft the relationship the way you want it to continue.
If you’re in a long-term relationship looking in on new couples who are still making out at any opportunity and doing everything together, then you may find yourself missing that spark of excitement or the days when you would be romantic with each other more than twice a year.
So, how do you get that romance back?
Here’s how you and your partner can stir things back up.
Mostly, the form your relationship takes will be indicated by the way you see yourself and your partner and the way you think about yourselves as a couple. The problem for many is that we get too ‘used’ to being in relationships and so stop putting in the effort and drop our guard. It’s nice to feel comfortable around someone, but that doesn’t mean you have to always wear the old, worn out pair of joggers when you’re at home together, and it doesn’t mean you should belch loudly in their face because you think it’s funny.
The point is that you should still be trying to impress your partner. While you can act more comfortable around them by being yourself, that doesn’t mean you should stop putting on the ‘sexy’ act if you want to keep the passion in your relationship.
Many couples don’t realise that they can still flirt. Flirting is something we often miss when we’re in a more stable relationship, but there’s no reason you can’t flirt with your current partner and tease them a bit. And when you do, you’ll find that it turns up the heat (flirting is incredibly sexy).
Likewise, you should also think ‘effort’ when it come to your appearance and the things you do together. Do go the extra mile to go on conventional dates and dress for them as though you were meeting each other for the first time in terms of effort. Whether it be buying something new to wear like you would when you were dating, or something you feel fabulous wearing. Remember, when you look and feel fabulous and love yourself, then it is easier to love your partner.
Have fun together and keep playing together. The more you can do the above, the more romance you will create in your relationship.
Carolyn (Caz) Rowland is a fashion designer at Cazinc The Label, model, lifestyle blogger and professional Image Stylist. Caz is also a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching. Caz is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.
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