7 Essential Pillars To Your Success
Most people are in search of happiness, which is an essential key to success. When I die, I want to be the happiest grave in the graveyard, not the richest! So, what is the formula for happiness, which leads to success?
Most people are unhappy because their expectations are higher than their living conditions and they think they need to exceed these to find peace. What you need to do is think with your heart, and not listen to the contrary “ego” thoughts. Thinking from your heart where you will find honesty and strength.
“Don’t die with the music in your heart.” - Wayne Dwyer.
Is it time to reconnect with what you were born to do and find out what is unique to you?
Find out who you already are, then help you to become it.
What is your fantasy?
What are your dreams?
What do you love to do?
The seven pillars of personal power listed below will help you.
1. Self-Worth / Esteem / Belief / Love
These four things are key to the relationship that you have with yourself. Did you know that improve the relationship with you will improve your relationship with others? Developing your relationship with yourself will help you to believe in you and with your confidence and happiness, influence the way others think and see you.
Successful people form a relationship around their emotions.
To be successful, we need to change our emotions and our thoughts.
Thoughts are what you keep doing over and over. What you focus on is what you give a meaning to then put a feeling/emotion to.
Thoughts are like wavebands; people choose the same band width and think “That is real” when it is only their perception of everything there is.
You need to learn to choose your thoughts. If you don’t like the stream of ideas playing in your head, you need to change the stream.
Many people jeopardise their success because they have low self-esteem and consistently put others in front of themselves, making their needs more important than their own. They don’t want to let others down, so they take on their problems rather than the other person taking ownership of their problems.
To be successful in life and your career, you need to put yourself on equal par with others by prioritising your time to yourself as much as you do with others.
If you want more success in life, it is essential to become aware of the power of the unconscious mind.
When successful people speak, they focus and say what they want in life, not what they don’t want. They know through goals where they are heading and create the mindset for the purposes. They constantly speak success.
Think about what you are focusing on without even realising it. Change it to what you want to be focusing on.
So, it’s time for you to think and speak about what you want.
Your financial success is related to self-worth. The relationship you have with money is a magnifier of the relationship you have with everything else; it’s a doorway to how you are in life.
Money is linked to your emotions, and you can often see someone’s real character via money.
Ask yourself, “What are you willing to give?”
Be kind to yourself, and you will realise you will always have an abundance.
Develop an abundance mentality!
Life is about evolving to the next level of us!
Self-discipline is establishing rituals in your life. And the more routines you have, the better experiences you will have.
Rituals need you to take action; for the ducks to line up we have to do something first – don’t wait around for them to line up.
- Unconscious actions
For example, successful tennis players are the ones who have habits that serve them. They practice without fail and go through the repetition until they perfect the move. They do the routines without thinking. Rituals take you from technician to mastery.
A ritual I have developed over time is to go to bed earlier (rather than watching hours of boring tv) to be up and exercising at 6 am so that by 7 am I am ready to go home to shower and get on with my day.
The trick to the ritual is not to be thinking about it, just getting up and going.
Develop lots of cool rituals, and you’ll start to feel great about yourself. The more rituals you have, the better your confidence, courage and self-esteem as you see yourself easily doing things you thought too hard or that you were too busy to do.
Courage is strength and backing yourself, which means you need to become uncomfortable and face being vulnerable.
Not embracing vulnerability is a sign of weakness, while true love of yourself is embracing your vulnerabilities. Sharing your vulnerabilities can help you achieve better success in all facets of your life, including your career because let’s face it, who is perfect?
While you still might want to hold back on something at that job interview, starting a new business, or even in your relationship with your partner, showing off that vulnerable side is not the disaster in the making that you think it is. Opening up and revealing that you are just as human as everybody else can be very rewarding to everyone.
Showing you are vulnerable rather than trying to be perfect helps you to connect with others on a much deeper level, which can lead to more sharing and more trust, and more success. You might find yourself forming an even stronger bond with the people that you share your life with that can help yield positive results in the near and far future.
Carolyn (Caz) Rowland is a fashion designer at Cazinc The Label, model, lifestyle blogger and professional Image Stylist. Caz is also a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching. Caz is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.
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