How To Let Go Of The Superwoman Title
Kylie has achieved a lot in her thirty-five years. She has two kids and a mortgage, a husband with a business that she participates in managing, as well as a busy side business that brings her joy.
It wasn’t always like this though. For a while Kylie had found being a stay at home mum and part-time worker to be utter drudgery. I will never forget hearing her rail about chirpy social media posts. “Why should I ‘find compassion’ and ‘accept what is’?” she asked with annoyance.
She was very angry and depressed and felt ashamed of herself. “There was this ‘public me’ that looked as though I had it all together. Then there was the real me.”
Kylie knew she “should” be happy that she had it all. Certainly, to many onlookers, she had achieved a great deal. On the inside though, this is what she was thinking: “I am not Superwoman. Far from it. I am broken. I have to stop hoping to get more self-discipline ‘someday’. The yearning is so depleting. I want to have options other than crankiness as a way of getting through my daily life. It feels like an endurance test.”
Rather than living, Kylie was only managing. She hated parts of her life so much that it spilt over into other parts of her life. Kylie was ready to do something different to change things. She took up some short and focused therapy and coaching because venting with friends hadn’t worked as many of them were stuck in the dramas of their own.
Through the therapy and the desire to be the “real” Kylie, it became possible for her to stop pretending to do the superwoman act and be more of her real self. She learned how to become intimately acquainted and aligned to her values and act from them.
What Kylie worked out via our sessions was she could ask for help and get it - a big thing for superwomen to overcome. She reduced her commitment at the family business to a minimal oversight role (she realised that it could still function perfectly well without her hours at the computer) and became happier. She took up training in personal fitness.
Kylie created more time for her to be herself.
Now, even though she is very busy with her side business which has become her main income, she is authentically happy because she’s doing what she loves. And the bonus is that she has a renewed love and patience for her husband and children.
“The best thing I’ve learned is just to be me. To stop putting on a front, and to listen to my gut. And act from it. I really hope to pay this forward to my kids.”
Be inspired. I am!
We all have a path to live and enjoy.
Margo Field recently has been a CEO and now runs her coaching and advisory business.
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