Is Your Career Ruining Your Love Life?
A question that often comes up with relationships, and a topic that most of you would have heard about, is how do you find a healthy balance between your work and social life? This can be particularly challenging if you have a very stressful job which makes your work/life balance weighted too much towards work and not the other important aspects of your life.
Such imbalance can affect your chances for maintaining a great love life, whether you are in a relationship right now or not.
Besides taking up huge chunks of your time, highly stressful careers can cause mental exhaustion to a point where you would prefer to collapse in front of the TV, rather than a chat with a real person. It somehow seems the most comfortable and most relaxing option.
How can you talk about the things that are important to you and your partner and your relationship when you are too tired to talk? If you are at the point of mental and physical exhaustion, how can you think about going on date nights with your partner or a date with someone new?
I too am one who works exceptionally long hours, and this is the best advice I can give to start to put some balance back into your love life – regular date nights.
Whether you are climbing the corporate ladder, starting or running a company or just working long hours or two jobs, start with something as simple as locking in regular date nights with your partner or a potential partner at least once per month. These are written in ‘permanent ink’ in your calendar – try very hard not to move them, or worse, cancel, especially not for work-related commitments. They will become your framework for building and maintaining your relationship and love life.
Another alternative is to take a few days off to go away together. My husband and I escaped the winter and the world recently for a relaxing and romantic holiday where we didn’t do any site seeing. We stayed in an “Adults Only” apartment, enjoyed long walks along the beach and exploring different sites, read books, slept in, drank cocktails by the pool and enjoyed romantic dinners together. Just what we needed for our relationship.
By organising regular date nights, or a short escape from the world might be what you need to find the renewed passion in your relationships to give you more energy at work.
Carolyn Rowland is a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching and A Professional Image Stylist. Carolyn is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.