How To Bounce Back After Having A Baby
There is a lot of information out there for what we need to do when having a baby, although when you first give birth most of us feel like we receive more information when we adopt a puppy than when we have children.
My four pregnancies were over a period of ten years. I was twenty-five when I had my first child Luke and thirty-six when I had my fourth child, James. All I can say is that there was a huge difference between the pregnancies.
This is what I experienced, how I recovered and the best advice I received.
When I had Luke, who was over nine pounds, I was teaching aerobics. The main thing I had to do while pregnant was eliminate high impact (such as running) and stick to low impact movements (walking). Other than morning sickness and having a huge baby (who is now 6 foot, 4 inches) I had a smooth pregnancy.
When Luke was born my Mum gave me some great advice - just relax. Babies generally cry if they are hungry, tired, need a nappy change or have wind. This baby-caper was easy and I loved being a Mum. At this stage of life nothing really worried me. I didn’t stress about anything. When Luke was two weeks old, I was back teaching aerobics (low impact) and was back to my pre-pregnancy size by the time Luke was six weeks old. Even though I felt I ballooned to the size of a whale by the time I gave birth, being fit and in my 20’s I bounced back easily and effortlessly. Luke was a dream baby and I was on a high.
Moving forward ten years and to our little surprise baby James, things were a lot different. During the pregnancy I even had to give up walking. Running around after three other children was all my body could handle. I wasn’t feeling fabulous about myself and my self-image was at an all-time low. Then one of my gorgeous girlfriends said something to me I have never forgotten:
When Elle McPherson gives birth, even though she has nannies and dietitians, she gives her body six months to heal and recover. So why don’t you give your body twelve months?
Other than my Mum’s fabulous advice for motherhood, this was the best advice I could have received at the time. It made so much sense! I gave up the self-loathing and became kind to myself and my body. I learned to love my body that had just given me the greatest gift, my fourth baby. I continued to eat healthy food and gradually commenced walking again before I went back to the gym.
My friend was right. By the time James was one year old my body had healthily gone back to the way it was. No diets, no schemes and no worrying or feeling bad about myself! Rather than stressing, I allowed time for my body to heal and it was a wonderful journey, one I will always treasure thanks to my friend’s kind words.
Carolyn Rowland is a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching and A Professional Image Stylist. Carolyn is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.
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