Don't Make The Change, Be The Change.
It is the same every year. Many of us make New Year’s resolutions to start eating better, become fit, give up sugar or finally finish a project you have been talking about for ages. We have the best intentions to really do these things, even though we have certain habits and tendencies that are at odds with us actually doing them. And, most of the time, you are lucky if you make it to the end of January before it all falls apart.
It is time to resolve not to let this happen again, but how?
We can trick our minds into doing what we would like to do.
Think about something you regularly do that you feel right about, be it writing, running or making music.
What words do you use when you describe it? Do you say, “I’m a runner,” for example? Or do you say, “I run”?
It turns out that there is a big difference between the two.
Do you vote, or are you a voter?
In 2011, a survey was conducted to find out how likely people were to vote. Participants were asked the following two questions: “How important is it for you to vote?” or “How important is it for you to be a voter?”
The results showed that those who felt it was more important to be a voter also had higher voting rates. Why? Because being “a voter” was a matter of personal identity, not just action.
You can use this to your advantage. If you want to shift your behavior for the better and give yourself some real fuel, start identifying with something you want to do, rather than merely describing the action.
Say you want to begin to eat healthily but are struggling to stick to it. Instead of describing yourself as “eating healthy food,” say, “I’m healthy.” Or you want to write a blog, instead of describing your career as “I write a blog,” say, “I’m a blogger.”
What you are doing is putting an identity to your actions.
Simple, yet surprisingly effective!
Stick with It - The Science of Lasting Changes by author Sean Young offers sensible advice that you can start using today to make positive changes in your life. Drawing from real-world case studies and the latest behavioral research, Young provides a thorough and rational plan for how you can combat your bad habits and follow through on your dreams and goals.
Carolyn Rowland is a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching and A Professional Image Stylist. Carolyn is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.
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