Do You Have To Look Perfect To Have The Perfect Relationship?
How many times have you looked at models in magazines or online and compared yourself to them? Maybe they have bigger eyes, longer legs, a slimmer body? You wish that you could have that too and think that then things might be better in your life. But it is not a great idea to compare yourself to other women.
Not only can it make us more than a little sad, it can destroy lives.
There have been many women who have come to me for styling or coaching who are devastated, not only with the way they look, but with how they feel about themselves. Their confidence is at an all-time low and they no longer want to undress in front of their partners because of this.
Yet looking like a model is only surface gloss; there are much more important things which hold a relationship together and make it a joy to be part of. What I have seen with my clients and their relationships is that one of the most important aspects in a strong relationship is your history together. The way you can finish off each other's sentences, the funny things that have happened to you over the years. The children you have raised together or the holidays you have taken. The things you value together. These are all the elements that define you as a couple.
In many cases I saw, when one half of the couple left because they were attracted to someone else they ended up single because they left for the looks, which they got, but they missed the history they had with the other person. From the biggest to the littlest things they had experienced together, the difficult times they worked through, the laughs, the shared understanding.
Physical attraction may have started your relationship, but it is your history together that often becomes the strongest bond that keeps you together.
So, enjoy the history you have but keep working on your self-love and remember to show love for one another daily.
More kissing, hugging, kind and loving words. Consistently.
Be romantic. You’re building more history.
Forget the models - enjoy being who you are and being the most important person in the world to your partner.
You can find more articles on how to love your partner in the relationship section of our blog.
Carolyn Rowland is a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching and A Professional Image Stylist. Carolyn is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.
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