How Can Busy Women Become Organised At Home?
You come home after a long day at work, only to find that your partner has left a huge mess everywhere. Or you are a working mum and dread coming home to a disaster of a home that you don't know where to start? Would you be tempted to curse your dearly beloved for being such a disorganised slob or want to sell off your children because they are like seagulls and leave their shit everywhere?
Although venting your anger might feel right, it wouldn’t be an efficient way of changing your families ways.
What does your clutter cost you?
Instead, you should try to help your partner and children develop his or her motivation for becoming more organised.
Let's say your messy partner also suffers from "I can't find my keys!" syndrome. If you want to help them become tidier, directly ask them how much time they think they waste each day looking for the keys lost in the mess and clutter. Or the kids need the assignment they have been working on for weeks, but it is hidden under all the rubbish lying around.
By asking in a straight, non-condescending way, you can get them to realise that their clutter is costing them personally and they'll be more motivated to become tidy and organised.
So next time you come home to a messy house, don't get mad. Instead, ask your family: “How much does your clutter cost you?”
"Organizing From The Inside Out" The Foolproof System for Organizing Your Home, Your Office and Your Life - By Julie Morgenstern (America's #1 Queen of organisation) is the essential handbook on how to organise your life in a personalised and sustainable way. From your office to your house to your suitcase, this book outlines clear step-by-step strategies to coordinate your entire world.
I never thought I would pick up a book, let alone read it about cleaning, but this book was easy to understand, and I have found my stress level over cleaning has reduced since reading the book.
Even though I am considered to be a "neat freak" by my children, I am the messy one of Simon and me - who is the ultimate freak of neat. Another reason this book was a must-read for me.
The book has reliable systems to explain:
- Why you should never get angry with your messy partner (Simon, are you reading this!).
- How long it takes to clean a room on average
- Why your messiness may have psychological causes
Julie shows her "organised from the inside out method" that makes cleaning up fun and achievable around your work schedule.
Start getting organised from the inside out by identifying the causes of your disorganisation.
Use these five-needs assessment questions to evaluate your organizational challenge:
First off, what works?
It’s likely you’re not doing everything wrong. So take a minute to notice what runs smoothly. This will not only prevent you from eliminating good habits but also help you apply what’s working to what’s not.
The next question is what doesn’t work?
To figure out what’s wrong with your system, try keeping a list of the inefficiencies in your day-to-day life and how they slow you down. Hang the list in a prominent place to keep your areas of improvement in mind!
Which items are essential to you?
This could be anything. Say music helps you relax at the end of a hard day. In that case, your CD collection would be a priority.
Why become organised?
After you decide on what you need to keep, try writing down why you want to get organised. Getting organised is difficult and knowing your motivation will help you stick with it.
What's causing the problem?
Finally, ask yourself what’s causing the problems you see. Is it a lack of will or skills? Maybe it’s your partner’s disorganisation?
This is key because you’ll only be able to solve your problems when you know what causes them.
Analysing the situation takes time, and it’s tempting to skip it and dive right in, but investing time up-front will pay off tenfold down the line. Just remember: Without an honest examination, the right organisation is impossible.
Are you an organised person, or feel like your life is a mess?
Carolyn Rowland is a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching and A Professional Image Stylist. Carolyn is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.
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