What Are The Most Successful Kids Gifted From Their Parents This Christmas?

What Are The Most Successful Kids Gifted From Their Parents This Christmas?

Every parent wants their child to be happy, but most want their children to be successful also, but there can be many paths to success. Just see what some of the world's most successful people have said:

"Success requires learning which bridges to cross and which bridges to burn" - Oprah Winfrey.

"The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won't. It's whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere." - Barack Obama.

"If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse." - Jim Rohn


What is the one thing successful people have in common? They believe in themselves. The first step on any path to success is to stop settling and start reaching for what is possible.

If you want your children to take the steps required for success, no matter what pursuit they choose in life, if you want your children to be happy and confident, which leads to success, then here are some priceless gifts you can start giving them for Christmas.

Start by giving them these eight gifts, by Jeff Haden, author of "The Motivation Myth, How High Achievers Really Set Themselves Up To Win," a lot more often.

1. The gift of independence

Parents set guidelines. Parents make rules. That's the job, but not too many guidelines and regulations.

Personal satisfaction comes mostly from autonomy and independence. We all care the most when something is "ours." We care the most when we feel we have the responsibility and authority not just to do what we're told, but to do what we think is right.

Allow your kids to turn "have to" into "want to," because that turns a chore into something a lot more meaningful: an outward expression of their skills, talents, and experiences.

You want your kids to do someday work that has meaning.

Start setting that stage now.

2. The gift of genuine, specific praise

Everyone does something well. That's why everyone deserves recognition and appreciation.

It's easy to praise your kids when they do something great. (It's possible that consistent praise is one of the reasons they frequently do great things.) It's much harder to find reasons to praise your child when he or she meets your expectations.

But that's when it's most important to praise them. A few words of recognition, especially when that recognition is given publicly, could be just the nudge your child needs.

Try hard to see the good in children, and not just yours, before they see it in themselves. Provide a little spark to help them reach their real potential.

3. The gift of extreme patience

Want to show someone you honestly care? Be patient with them.

Showing patience, and expressing genuine confidence, is a great way to let your children know you genuinely believe in them.

Not just today, but for their entire lives.

4. The gift of asking for help

Steve Jobs was famous for asking for help.

Asking for help isn't a gift; it's often an imposition.

But think of it this way - when you ask for help, especially from your kids, great things happen. You implicitly show you respect you've asked for help. You show you appreciate their knowledge or skill or experience. You show you trust them; after all, asking for help naturally makes you vulnerable.

Ask your kids for help as often as you can. They'll feel greater self-respect, self-esteem, and self-worth because they've received one of the greatest gifts of all: knowing they made a difference in another person's life: yours.

5. The gift of forgiveness

When your child makes a big mistake, it's easy to start to view him or her through the perspective of that mistake. (I have been guilty of this, as I am sure many parents are.)

But one mistake, or one weakness, is just one part of the whole person.

Want to be a great parent? Take a step back and think beyond the moment.

To forgive may be divine, but to forget can be even more divine.

6. The gift of privacy

They're your kids. You have a right to know.

Not everything, though.

Often, you don't even need to know. That's why sometimes the best gift you can give is the gift of privacy; not asking, not prying, and yet always being available if and when your child does want or need to share.

Help your children guard their privacy against outsiders, but also make sure you respect their privacy.

You don't always have to know to care.

7. The gift of high expectations

You and I? We're not perfect. We all want to be better than we are.

Which means, sometimes, we can all use a little constructive feedback.

Think about a time when someone told you what you least wanted to hear - and yet most needed to understand. You've never forgotten what that person said.

It changed your life.

Why not do the same for your child?

8. The gift of a growth mindset

According to research on achievement and success by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, people tend to embrace one of two mental approaches to talent:

Fixed mindset: the belief that intelligence, ability, and skill are inborn and relatively fixed, we "have" what we were born with. People with a fixed mindset typically say things like "I'm just not that smart" or "Math is not my thing."

Growth mindset: the belief that intelligence, ability, and skill can be developed through effort, we are what we work to become. People with a growth mindset typically say things like "With a little more time, I'll get it" or "That's OK. I'll give it another try."

That difference in perspective can be moulded by the kind of praise we receive, and that often starts when we're kids.

For example, say you are praised in one of these ways:

"Wow, you figured that out so fast. You are so smart!"

"Wow, you are amazing. You got an A without studying!"

Sounds great, right? The problem is that other messages hide inside those statements:

"If I don't figure things out quickly, I must not be very smart."

"If I do have to study, I must not be amazing."

The result of those messages is a fixed mindset: We assume we are what we are. Then, when the going gets tough, and we struggle, we feel helpless because we think what we "are" isn't good enough.

And when we think that, we stop trying.

When you praise your children only for achievements or criticise them for short-term failures, you help create a fixed mindset environment. In time, your kids see every mistake as a failure. They see a lack of immediate results as a failure. In time, they can lose motivation and even stop trying.

After all, why try when trying won't matter?

Instead, make sure you focus on praising effort and application, too:

"Great job! I can tell you put a lot of time into studying for that test."

"Great work! I know that took a lot of work, but you stayed with it until you finished."

The difference? You still praise results, but you praise results that are based on a foundation of effort and not on an assumption of innate talent or skill.

By praising effort, you help create an environment where your kids feel anything is possible, all they have to do is keep trying.

So don't say "I know you'll get this; you're brilliant," because "you're brilliant" assumes an innate quality your child either has or does not have.

Instead, say "I have faith in you. You're a hard worker. I've never seen you give up. I know you'll get this."

Let's help our children to develop their growth mindset, as not only will they grow and learn, but they will become more comfortable when they have to step out of their comfort zones. And with the unconditional love and right praise from their parents, they will be happy and have the confidence to do this. They will accept any temporary failure and see it as another step to their path to success.

Carolyn (Caz) Rowland is a fashion designer, model, lifestyle blogger and professional Image Stylist. Caz is also a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching.  Caz is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.


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Merry Christmas from the Rowland Family.

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