Does Your Love Fade Over The Years?
“But does it fade?” a friend asked, thinking about the love that comes with marriage. I smiled and told her it doesn’t have to fade, but love does change with time.
As Simon and I have celebrated another anniversary, our twenty-fourth, I am reminded that the way we speak about marriage is so important. It’s not about honeymoon phases that are fleeting, but how we can show up together to enjoy life as a team.
We still snuggle up and spoon when we fall asleep (I love it when my husband reminds me daily that this is the part of his day he loves the most). We often send random “I love you” text messages or tell each other this daily. We laugh every day, at the little things, like when one of us farts, and we more than love each other, we really like each other. We are best friends, and as much as we love being with other people, we cherish the times we have alone.
We are not the same people who we saw in our wedding video, which we watched on our anniversary. We are different to the 27-year-olds saying the wedding vows, with our gorgeous one-year-old son Luke, who is now 25 and 6ft 4inches! But upon reflection, Simon and I have grown into each other.
We are real, (as per the fart comment above), we still are madly in love, but as the years pass, our relationship gets more comfortable, which doesn't mean we relax and become boring. Anyone who knows Simon and I, we are far from this and life is always fun and exciting, like when we jumped out of a plane earlier this year. What I mean is we now speak the same language, we often know what the other is thinking and feeling; it's the small gestures and moments we share together that are special.
We do complete each other, but we ensure we are already complete with our individual life journeys as well as the ones we share together. We have been together as a couple longer than we have been apart (we met when we were 23). Our history together is a love story that doesn't only involve love; it is also friendship. I love having a man who likes me, loves me and wants more of me.
Happy anniversary to the love of my life, who also drives me crazy, but brings out the best of me, everyday. I love you babe and always will.
Carolyn (Caz) Rowland is a fashion designer, model, lifestyle blogger and professional Image Stylist. Caz is also a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching. Caz is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.
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