Never Enough - A Diet Queen's Journey To Recovery
From early on, eating was never a straightforward thing for Kelly, a 40-year-old woman who after years of dieting and hating her body, was fed up!
The above information horrified me as I knew Kelly as a young girl. I taught aerobics with Kelly's mother in the 1980's, a time where body image for young girls was at an all-time high. Fast forward to 30 years later, I was shocked to read Kelly's story in her 'heart on your sleeve' journey, starting from childhood to her 40th Birthday in her brilliant book "Never Enough: How a diet queen learned to love herself and eat like a normal person." Kelly navigated through the confusing messages from society and ultimately learned to care and love herself well beyond the world of dieting she had been living in.
When Kelly found herself in the midst of the most dangerous diet of her life, sick and tired of the roller-coaster, an epiphany struck.
From that moment she made it her life's goal to never spend another day dieting and with determination by her side, she started. Her book about this journey is a happily ever after story of finding acceptance and self love.
The book has a strong message for anyone who as a dysfunctional relationship with food.
I contacted Kelly, and she has kindly written the following about her journey, exclusively for our readers.
In Kelly's own words:
I kept thinking I didn't want to be someone who was perpetually unhappy with myself and on a never-ending diet. Diets turned into eating disorders like binge eating, food addiction, emotional eating, orthorexia and body dysmorphia. After about 30 years of dieting, giving up was a lot harder than anticipated. I wanted to quit but didn't know how.
Once I set-to and started learning all of the things that helped me with my own recovery, I felt the strongest desire to help other women. I wanted to share all the things I was learning, so they didn't have to suffer as I did for 30 years.
I also wanted to share my story because my eating disorder was a secret. It was something I was ashamed of, and I was sick of always being embarrassed and scared to show the real me. Writing this book was a combination of a confession to the world, as well as the hope that other women would also quit diets and start trusting and loving themselves.
The diet industry makes me angry as it is hurting rather than helping. What we need are professionals teaching people how to make slow, lasting change. Not 12-week quick fixes that never last.
I did not fail at the diets; the diets failed me.
I have learned that health and fitness is a lot simpler than we have made it. There are so many fad exercises, diets and trends that we have forgotten how great a good old-fashioned walk and apple is for you.
When I decided to quit diets, I didn't think it through or plan for it. I didn't realise that dieting was my way of life and I did not know how to eat without diets. I would wake up confused as to what to eat for the day because of all the mixed messages diets had embedded in me.
The book is a story of all the things that helped me finally learn to love myself as I was and quit diets forever.
As someone who was also once a "diet queen" and had a shocking relationship with food and self-love, I could relate to this book in so many ways. Kelly's story touched me in so many ways, and I know it will to other people who are also suffering, many in silence.
By sharing this article, you could be helping many other young girls to realise they are perfect the way they are and to eat healthy.
Thank you so much gorgeous Kelly for allowing me to publish your story.
Carolyn (Caz) Rowland is a fashion designer, model, lifestyle blogger and professional Image Stylist. Caz is also a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching. Caz is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.