The Critical Ingredients To Stay In Love For Over 80 Years
Last week on “The Project” I saw a beautiful story of an Australian couple who have been married for 80 years. Ron and Esther, or “Es” as Ron lovingly calls her, are so humble that they were blown away to know that the Prime Minister was talking about them.
Listening to the program, the three things that I picked up about this gorgeous couple, that are complete opposites (it is said that opposites attract) is that the critical ingredients for them to maintain a loving relationship over the years have been loyalty, respect and trust – for each other and their individuality. For example, Ron loves sport, but Esther doesn’t know anything about sport and is into yoga instead.
Although they spoke about what has kept them together for 80 years, I loved how they spoke about when they first met.
“The first time we met I was a teenager, about sixteen. Two girls came down the street dressed in blue, and one was Esther. She always looked lovely, but those days she had very dark hair, blue eyes… she wasn’t bad looking…” Ron says wryly.
Esther’s face lights up. “He put his arm around me, and I was very surprised… yes, I thought he was quite handsome”.
I love that they still feel this way about each other after 80 years! Their love and friendship have remained strong for eight decades due to the love and respect they have always shown each other, and which has created trust and confidence.
When you respect your partner, you demonstrate a high regard for them. Appreciating each other shows how much you admire and value them, which leads to your partner not only loving you more, but it makes them feel good about themselves, increasing their self-esteem and confidence.
Being loyal to your partner in your relationship means you are faithful and honest to your partner at all times, and you make it obvious that you are attracted to your partner at all times. It also means you always build your partner up and never put them down in any way. Being loyal includes never saying disturbing or critical things to, or about, your partner, and never playing around on them. Loyal and loving couples, like Ron and Esther, stick together and stand up for each other, during good times and bad.
Loyalty in a relationship builds trust because the couple is confident that they can rely on one other, no matter what. Trusting couples know they never need to worry about what their partner is doing, they know they will always be there for them and will always be truthful.
Cheers to long and loving relationships, built around the old-fashioned values of loyalty, respect and trust.
Carolyn Rowland is a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching and A Professional Image Stylist. Carolyn is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.