Better Grooming For Better Relationships
Your appearance defines who you are. It speaks volumes more than you can imagine and can be a significant factor that affects how close or distant people will be to you.
First impressions are especially important. Believe it or not, more than half the chances you may have to engage a person in a conversation (and make them fall for you if that is your hope) depends on your appearance and neatness. A clean and neat person sends out an aura that makes people feel relaxed and comfortable when they’re around them. How you dress doesn't only decide how you will be approached and addressed, but also determines what people will think of you the first time they meet you.
It also has other positive benefits. Have you ever noticed how confident you feel when you love what you are wearing? And often when you know you look good and feel good your confidence gets even more of a boost as you are likely to be told that you look attractive and beautiful by others.
Being well groomed and well-dressed doesn’t mean you have to spend a fortune though. This is a misconception that many people have, but there is a difference between “dressing expensively” and “dressing well”. A person can wear a very expensive outfit but still not look smart, decent or attractive. Yet another person can wear an outfit pulled together from classics from their wardrobe, inexpensive basics and even things from second-hand shops and look a million dollars. It’s all about style.
“If I could only have one grooming tool, it would be floss. I don't want to have broken Cheetos in my teeth. To protect myself from the sun, I can find shade under a tree. To moisturise my skin, I could get really sweaty and then just rub it on myself. But how are you going to clean between your teeth without floss?” -Jonathon Van Ness, Entertainer.
But neat grooming isn’t just what is seen – the clothes, shoes hair and makeup. Having fresh breath is also vitally important. If you do not maintain good dental and mouth hygiene you may not even realise that you have bad breath. The people you speak to will know though and they will avoid you after their first conversation with you if at all possible. They will definitely not have any romantic intentions towards you either. Remember too that showering should be a daily or even twice-daily occurrence as a clean and pleasant body scent may not be noticed much, but a stale body odour will definitely be noticed. Use fragrance if you like, but don’t overdo it as the scent can become over powering and people will want to leave your company sooner to get some fresh air!
Throughout my years working as a stylist, I observed that the way a person dresses also seems to have an impact on their luck. Those who dress smartly and neatly often attract successes that others don’t. But it is not really luck at all – it is the result of their attention to their personal care and their dressing. When you know you look good and you feel good about yourself, your confidence is high, and this affects your attitude and behaviour. You are more likely to act positive and be out going. People will be attracted to this, so you meet more people and they have a confidence in you. Opportunities come your way.
Now, do you want to know an secret extra benefit of being well groomed? It can also makes you sexy. Are you attracted to neat and well-dressed people? Are you attracted to nice smelling people? Do you notice when your partner looks good?
Grooming plays a role in building intimacy between romantic partners. First, cleanliness can enhance sexual pleasure. During lovemaking, we feel our partner, we caress them, we kiss them, we breathe them in. A fresh body smell enhances the pleasure and also make your partner want to make love to you more. An unpleasant body smell is a turn-off and could even result in a loss of interest.
So, if you want to boost your confidence, enjoy the company of others, be noticed and have more chance of finding a partner and improve your sex life, make it a daily ritual to make yourself as well presented as possible.
Carolyn Rowland is a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching and A Professional Image Stylist. Carolyn is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.