Abusive Relationships - What Are The Signs?
A respectable and loving relationship can be one of the greatest joys in life and the goal of many people is to find the partner of their dreams, or make their existing relationship one they love and enjoy.
On the other hand, an abusive relationship can be one of the worst things people can experience and make life a living hell.
When we are in a relationship, often we can look at our partners through rose coloured glasses and only want to see or believe what we want in our partners. But abuse isn’t only the obvious physical or sexual abuse, but it can also be mental abuse, especially when your partner is continually undermining you by making fun of you, calling you names or flirting with others. The mental abuse is often the start and often escalates into sexual and/or physical abuse.
People often stay in an unloving and abusive relationships because they have financial ties, children, or simply because they don’t want to feel lonely. The problem is the longer you stay and ignore the warning signs, the more you risk the abuse escalating.
This is because abuse is all about power and control and has been linked to a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. People with this disorder, as pathetic and sad as it is, need to have power over others and many lives have been destroyed by such people.
The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding.
Here are some of the signs your partner will have if they are like this:
1. History of many short-term relationships
2. “Love bombs” their partner at the beginning of the relationship
3. Claim you have a soulmate connection
4. History of overlapping relationships
5. Projects feelings of insecurity
6. High need for control
7. Hides important details about their past
8. Financially irresponsible
9. Has difficulty relaxing
10. Is unmoved by feelings of others
11. Inability to handle criticism
12. Focuses on the superficial
Carolyn Rowland is a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching and A Professional Image Stylist. Carolyn is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.