How To Increase Your Daughters Body Image Confidence?
Thank you everyone for your comments and support regarding yesterday's article on what I loved about the Italian women (read here), so today I have followed this up with a beautiful article by our regular writer, Angelica about what happened to her with body image and how we can help our daughters, with the aid of the Pretty Foundation.
Here it is.....
It broke my heart when I read that 50% of preschool aged girls are dissatisfied with their bodies and that 90% of girls aged 12 – 17 are on a diet of some type.
Have you ever gone into the bathroom and taken a look in the mirror and just hated what you saw? Was it your stomach, your thighs or your bum and just thought “my goodness I wish that was smaller or prettier?”
Body image is the thoughts and feelings that we attach to the mental image we have of ourselves. When a person has a healthy body image, they accept the appearance of their body, most of the time.
I would like to draw your attention to the Pretty Foundation. This incredible group are working to combat this serious problem, and they are starting with the little ones.
Their research revealed that a positive body image commences in early childhood.
Their attention focusses on educating parents and children’s loved ones about the appropriate language and model behaviour to build confidence and resilience in young girls.
Before I get more into some of their tips and tricks, we must address the elephant in the room…. What shapes a girl’s body image?
Well it isn’t just one thing, it can be a multitude of factors.
Here are three of the common ones:
1. The Media
Our exposure to the press is enormous. Photos on Instagram, pictures in magazines and on billboards and people on TV are constantly in our faces and are both directly and indirectly, sending us messages about the way we should look.
Parents are role models for body image for their children. If a parent speaks negatively about themselves and the way that they look it sends a negative image to their daughter about the way she should feel about herself. Diet like behaviours such as restricting calories and jumping on the scales can send a message to children that they must conform to some ‘ideal’ body type.
When a girl is teased about their appearance, their size or the way they perform in physical activity they can have lowered self-esteem.
I will never forget the moment I started questioning my size. I was 12 years old at a dance class, being fitted for our costumes. We were asked to stand in height order so they could work out what size we would be. I was short, and I had a little bit of a tummy (what can I say I love my pasta). The dance teacher pointed at me and in front of the whole class said: “Angelica go and stand with the tall girls, you’re going to need a bigger costume because of your weight.”
That was ten years ago, and I swear I can still hear her saying those words and my cheeks going bright red with embarrassment.
The Pretty Foundation is working to change the world so that women and girls feel confident about their bodies. Their mission is:
“To empower women and girls with the perspective, skills and support to develop and nurture a positive body image for themselves and others.”
They want to change the meaning of the word “pretty” from a superficial way to physically describe girls to something that means something and speaks to girls REAL and fantastic qualities… I think that is a pretty inspirational idea!
Their website is jam-packed with helpful ways for parents to speak to their girls to build a positive body image.
Here are my three favourite tips:
1. Help your child to develop their confidence in their skills and abilities that are not related to their appearance.
2. Teach your child that healthy bodies come in all shapes and sizes. There is no such thing as the “perfect” body. Every person has been blessed with beauty and can be healthy no matter how they look.
3. Try to avoid making negative comments about your weight or appearance. Your child observes everything, and they want to see you be CONFIDENT. They LOVE you for you, no matter what you think of yourself.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” – Psalm 139:14
To download the Pretty Foundation’s ‘Body Image Parents’ Guide’ and to donate to this incredible foundation go to their website - http://prettyfoundation.org
Remember, we are all WORTHY of LOVING our bodies no matter what shape they are!
Just ask Caz who has worked with over 1,000 women who all had style and body issues until they learnt how to dress for their shape. Learn to dress for your shape with our eBook here.
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