How To Cope When Times Get Tough
Are you living life up to your full potential? The big question here is "What is our full potential?" The unfortunate truth is, many of us fail to access all our energy, intelligence and compassion because we get bogged down in disappointment and failure.
How do you cope when times get tough?
Difficult experiences – breakups or the loss of a loved one – can take such an emotional toll that it feels almost impossible to focus on anything other than yourself and your pain.
But we can learn to overcome hardship by harnessing the power of resilience. Because here’s the thing: none of us can escape pain, fear or doubts. But we can refuse to let difficult experiences bring us down! The trick is to see them in the right light. Overcoming obstacles is difficult, but doing so will make you stronger. Simply put, pain builds courage. You just have to be resilient.
What is resilient? Have you seen the video by well known author of "The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People" Stephen Covey "A Valuable Lesson For A Happier Life?"
The moral of this story is that we all have hardships, but when you focus on the golfballs instead of the sand, you will not build the resilience required to lead an amazing life. And always take the time out to have a couple of beers with a mate.
And let's face it, we are here for a short period of time, so why not learn to make the most of it?
But, strangely enough, focusing on others can be instrumental to pulling through, healing your pain by helping others.
One Iraq War veteran was struggling to put his life back together after returning home. Then author of the book "Resilience - Hard-Won Wisdom For Living A Better Life", Eric Greitens asked him a pivotal question: “How are you going to serve again?”
Simple yet profound, this question made the veteran reflect on how he could serve others after his military service – and eventually led him to found his own business, Patriot Commercial Cleaning, which employs other veterans to help them rebuild their lives. Serving others enabled him to help himself.
Of course, you don’t have to start your own business to get back on track. Even things like helping a neighbor, tutoring a student or volunteering at an animal shelter imbue life with purpose, which, when the going gets rough, can make all the difference.
That’s what the author learned after spending many years working with veterans. Those brave men and women lost both limbs and friends, not to mention purpose. But by facing the loss and overcoming their pain, they transformed it into something positive.
Consider the story of Redmon Ramos. After losing his leg by stepping on a landmine in Afghanistan, the former marine realized he had two choices: he could either pity himself or confront his pain. He chose the latter option and, as a result, became much stronger. With the help of prosthetics, Ramos eventually entered the US Paralympic Warrior Games and brought home several medals.
There’s a lesson here: the goal isn’t to bounce back from a hardship, but rather to move through it. History is full of similar stories – stories of people faced with seemingly insurmountable challenges and managing to use their misery to their advantage.
Consider Miguel de Cervantes, a Spaniard imprisoned in 1602. To pass time in his cell, he invented a story about an old man who believed he was a knight. Eventually, that tale evolved into the first modern novel, a Spanish work of literature beloved to this day – Don Quixote.
We can all follow Cervantes’ lead and meet life’s challenges with courage and resilience.
Here are some points to help you further:
Resilience assists you to courageously overcome life's challenges.
Anything worth having is worth struggling for.
Start by taking responsibility for your own actions.
Repetition allows you to form positive habits to reach your goals
Deal with pain by finding meaningful challenges.
Please feel free to pass on, you never know who you will be helping. Thank you so much for your support and concern.
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