What Is The #1 Sentence We Need To Tell Our Children?
Being a parent is the toughest career you could ever have, the most judged, but also the most rewarding.
Out of all the careers I have had, the best one has been Mum to our four children.
Working with clients for the past 15 years, I have found with other parents, the number one item that has always been important with our children is communication. This is especially important now, when we are living in a zombie time, with our kids always being on their phones, tv, playstation and computers. The most communication we hear is "huh".
At the comedy festival, the comedian Richard Stubbs summed it up. If you want to find your children and have all their attention, just change the password on your home internet! They will come out running, they will even find you if you are locked in a cupboard!
With suicide being at an all time high, it is important for children, teenagers and young adults to know they are not alone. It is important for them to stop worrying, and know there is always someone to talk to, being a parent, teacher, family member, friend, etc.
So what is the sentence we have found to be the number one we need to communicate, over and over, to our children?
"Nothing is ever a problem, until you have spoken to someone, then, and only then, after speaking to someone, do you decide if it is a problem or not"
My eldest son admitted to me one day that he had a problem, that he had been worrying about since he was a little boy. He had trouble sleeping some nights due to this problem. When he was a young fella, he stole around $5.00 from a tin he saw in a clubroom because he wanted to buy a drink. The poor guy felt guilty about this for years, and it was only when he spoke to me about it, and I laughed and told him all was ok. It cost him more than $5.00, with the worry, and could only let it go when he spoke to someone.
Please, if you are a parent, please communicate this sentence to your children, often. I had a client who cursed herself for not saying this to her child, who is no longer with us.
Why am I writing this? As I stated in yesterday's article, it takes a village to raise a child. We need to all work together to raise our babies into adults, and I only hope by sharing this with you, it will save lives.
In the book "It's Never Too Late..." - 174 simple acts to change your life, there is a short passage on how to stop worrying.
Separate the worry from the problem.
Figure out what you can do...
...then do it.
If you have no power to do anything about it...
...worrying about it won't help.
Allow things to take their course.
Options will open up.
When you stop worrying, you think clearly.
Open your mind to possibilities.
You'll be surprised dhow often the problem dissipates.
Thank you for reading and your support. Please communicate this article with all parents, and we would love to hear your comments below.
What is a number one saying you tell your children?