How A Busy Mother of 6 Found Her Groove at 40
Lisa Gray is a gorgeous wife, mother of 6 beautiful children, an inspirational social media writer and an exceptional woman, who I have had the pleasure of knowing for over 10 years.
Between us, we have 10 children, and we are both happy, and enjoying every moment life has to offer. This hasn’t always been the case for both of us, being young mums, we felt lost and lonely, giving to everyone else and not ourselves. What we discovered, over a 3-hour luncheon, is that forty plus is fabulous.
Reaching 40 was an amazing milestone for me 10 years ago, it really was an awakening, and it was beautiful to speak to Lisa, to explore why forty plus was such an awakening for us, so we are happy to share with you why.
Forty plus is a major milestone in life. We discovered it is an age where you find out who you are, have found your tribe, and a time to prioritize what is important for you.
It is a confident age, where your concern is more about how you feel, rather than focusing on what others think. It is empowering to be at a non-seeking permission age, a being in charge age.
Wine before 11am, sure, it must be midday somewhere in the world. Chocolate for breakfast, why not? Takeaway three nights in a row, bring it on!!!
But with all these rights comes responsibility. What we found, especially with a bucket load of children between us, is that after your milestone birthday, you are possibly in the middle of your care taking role, whether with children, further study, or to reassess your career.
To keep all the balls up in the air, we exposed that it is an important time to look after yourself, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It can be impossible to be a good giver, if you have not given to yourself first. It is like the first rule of love, it is impossible to love someone else, if you don’t love yourself first.
When you go to pour from an empty bucket, nothing comes out. It is in the best interests of everyone around you to put yourself first. (read "How To Think Fabulous"). We are busy women, but we always make time to have a good start to the day. Lisa is a natural morning person, who loves to arise before the sun, and sip coffee while it’s hot, listening to the birds. I was never a morning person, especially while I told myself this! Now I am also up with the sparrows to exercise, as it is a great way to start my day, and then I have the rest of the day to enjoy.
Lisa enjoys this time to herself in the mornings, so she takes it, and also uses the time to exercise, by going for a walk before everyone is up. On the cold mornings, she puts the oven on to warm her home, then creates breakfast for the troops, and a smoothie for herself. Lisa is currently writing down all her smoothie recipes for Cazinc, so look out for them in the current weeks as they are a taste sensation.
Often to the disgust of our husbands, we love a market, especially farmer’s markets, where we can purchase organic produce. Being organic, it tends to spoil quicker than store brought fruit and vegetables. If we see it deteriorating, we cut it up and freeze it. We both have a freezer full of smoothie ingredients, with a selection of powders and potions, of maca powder (great for your libido), coconut water powder, cacao powder, all superfood powders from thehealthychef.com.au, which we add to the blends. Anything can be added, including seeds, nuts and husks for extra fibre. It is a huge vitamin tablet in a glass.
We have both noticed an increase in the mindfulness movement, which extends to mindful eating. We discussed how diet is a four-letter word to us, and they don’t work. Mindful eating like French women is what is in for us. We both focus on the 80/20 concept, 80% eating healthy food, which we find aesthetically pleasing. By adding little extras, such as delicious crunchy toppings of fruit, nuts and seeds to our meals, we mindfully enjoy what we have created.
The 20% for us are mainly made up of good dark chocolate, French Champagne and great wines. Life is all about balance.
Sometimes being a busy mum, a glass of wine, (it could be a fish bowl full) can be our saviour.
I love Lisa, because what we worked out is we are both far from perfect, and don’t want to be perfectionists. I laughed when Lisa told me she started a detox last week, then Sunday arrived, everything went downhill, so the detox went out the door, and red wine saved the day.
Lisa is also very funny to follow on Social Media. Mr X, as Lisa refers to her husband on social media, is a gorgeous guy who kept buying more chook sheds, while Lisa didn’t have an oven. The stories were priceless. Keep the wine flowing Lisa.
We hope you enjoyed our story. Even though we are 10 years apart in age, we have always had a wonderful connection. We are both women who love inspiring others, and Lisa has agreed to become a regular on the blog.
Yours in style,
Lisa and Carolyn
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