A Must Read Book On Domestic Violence And A Young Girl.
Domestic violence is, unfortunately, a colossal problem for families, with the number of referrals doubling in the past three years.
As a young girl, Jelena Dokic was uprooted from everything she knew in Yugoslavia and moved with her family, including her father from hell, Damir Dokic to Sydney, Australia. She was a refugee, living as an outsider, experiencing poverty and racism in her new country. But as revealed in her new book, Jelena has detailed the onslaught of abuse she suffered at the hands of her father, which also became part of her day to day life.
Reading this book and listening to Jelena on ABC radio reduced me to tears many times. I remember the young Yugoslavian girl in 2002, who everyone thought would be Australia’s next Evonne Goolagong. But what I also remember is the media. There were numerous articles written about Jelena and Damir, which were not pleasant. Often they were referred to as arrogant.
We didn’t know back then that despite surviving her move and becoming the world number 4 women’s tennis player, Jelena had to endure her abusive father off the court. She didn’t only suffer the beatings, often with a belt, but also the constant berating.
Even though Jelena suffered daily beatings so severe from her father, so cruel that was often on the tennis court covered in bruises, the one thing she hated him for the most was Damir forcing her to switch to Yugoslavia during her career.
In the book, Jelena's said:
“He beat me badly, it started day one of me playing tennis, it continued from there. It spiraled out of control.”
Jelena Dokic’s allegations include:
—Damir Dokic beating her so severely she once lost consciousness
—Dokic repeatedly whipping her with his leather belt because of “a mediocre training session (or) loss, a bad mood”;
—Dokic spitting in her face, pulling her hair and ears and kicking her in the shins with sharp dress shoes, leaving her bruised and bloody;
—Dokic was unleashing constant vile verbal abuse including calling his teenage daughter a “slut” and a “whore.”
Reading about this talented young woman was inspirational and heart-breaking. Her honest account of events and fight back from hell will leave you uplifted. I loved every page of this book and know you will also.
Carolyn Rowland is a qualified NLP Master Therapist, Advanced Practitioner of Matrix Therapies, Time Line Therapist, Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, has a Diploma for Business and Life Coaching and A Professional Image Stylist. Carolyn is happily married to her husband Simon, and raised four beautiful children, who are now young adults and a teenager.
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