The Warning Signs You Are In A Toxic Relationship With A Psychopath.
"I didn't know how to deal with the poisonous and toxic people in my life or why they behaved the way they did, so I went looking for an answer. This book is what I found."
Bestselling author David Gillespie, (That Sugar Film fame), author of Taming Toxic People: The Science of Identifying and Dealing With Psychopaths At Work and At Home turns his attention to a phenomenon that damages businesses, seeds mental disease and discomfort and can bring civilisations to the brink of implosion - the psychopath.
I first heard of this book at book club this month. While reading the book, (which I struggled to put down) I was shocked to find out that five to ten percent of people are probably psychopathic without ever indulging in a single criminal act, as previously we often referred to them as rapists or killers.
Relationships with psychopaths start out almost perfect - they are terrific lovers who are charming while hiding a lack of empathy
The common theme of the book is everyday psychopaths may be charming in the early stages of relationships or employment. But, as Gillespie argues, their presence in your life is at best disruptive, and at worst highly dangerous: they will leave you feeling cheated and humiliated, dominating and manipulating you to the point where you question your sanity. Worse, he cautions, at a societal level their tendency to gravitate towards positions of power can be disastrous.
Taming Toxic People is a practical guide to restraining that difficult person in your life, be it your boss, your spouse or a parent. But it is also a severe and meticulously researched warning: if we value a free and well-functioning society, we need to rebuild the sense of community that has historically kept the everyday psychopath in check, and we must understand and act to manage the psychopathic behavior in our midst.
David Gillespie shared some key indicators that help identify if you are in a relationship with a psychopath, via the Daily Mail.
• Individuals start off incredibly charming in precisely the way you liked to be charmed. They gain your trust early on and use your insecurities to make you love them more.
• They crave attention and will only surround themselves with fans.
• They will begin to sabotage and sever your existing relationships, in an attempt to cut you off from friends and family.
• They always lie and blame you for their faults.
• They become parasitic and never pay for anything.
• They become bored quickly and end the relationship when you are no longer of value to them.
Are you in a relationship with a psychopath?
The book is an absorbing read for everyone. What I found interesting during our book club discussion, everyone attending had been in a relationship, either at work or home, with a psychopath.
Carolyn Rowland has been a relationship therapist and coach for over seven years, working with many couples to happier relationships. She now shares many of these ideas, real stories, and information for you on her daily blog.
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