How To Wipe The Slate Clean
October 2nd will be a day our family will never forget. A 15-year-old friend of my son, James committed suicide.
We have all asked ourselves why?
Why would he do this when he had such a bright future, especially with sports?
Why would he do this when he had so many family and friends who loved him.
Why would this famous, funny, and fabulous kid, with the kindest heart do this?
Who knows, but one thing I do know, there is something we can do to prevent this happening again. As Lachlan's mum, Melanie said when I asked her about writing this article "I don't want his death to be in vain."
Whether you are a fan, or not, social media has become a significant fixture of modern life, a consistent stream of information, and a way to stay perpetually connected.
I love social media as it keeps me in touch with friends, family, and all of the people out there who like Cazinc. I love seeing holiday snaps, kids growing up and all the positives life has to offer.
What social media isn't about is real life, and last week when we attended his funeral a well-respected man in the community, Simon Floreani presented a speech from his heart.
A statement we will all remember about wiping the slate clean.
Here is Simon's message:
“When I go to bed each night, I want to make sure I wipe the slate clean. There was one night when I went to bed; I didn't expect to wake up, because of the guilt I felt. My slate wasn't clean. But I woke up and knew that would never happen to me again.
Life is not hanging onto how many likes we receive, how many followers we have.
Life is about putting your phone away and spending quality time with people. Life is about looking someone in the eye and asking "how are you?"
It's your choice to wipe the slate clean. You might feel exposed; you might feel scared, but you will be able to wipe the slate clean, knowing you listened with purpose.
As Lachlan's football coach, and a listener, I know I can go to bed tonight and wipe the slate clean.
What has happened is not just sad, it is a horror movie gone wrong. A black hole, an absolute horror story. So please use this situation to do something useful.
Let's not look down into our phones so much and look into someone's eyes. Listen with intent.
I promise to Lachlan to always clean the slate and know if I see any of you again, I know the slate is clean, and we are all good."
An important message I thank you for Simon, a signal our whole family has taken into consideration and utilized in our lives.
I only hope for everyone's sake that "his death doesn't go in vain" and we can all learn to spend quality time together, putting the phones away, looking others in the eye and asking "how are you?"
Please pass Simon's message on to everyone you know. The message was so loud that I was inspired to blog. No parent should have to go through this, no family, no friends. Let's keep asking.
Thank you to Simon and Melanie for allowing me to write this article.
The Rowland Family is thinking of and sending lots of love to the Jorgensen Family during this tough time.
Remember, nothing is ever a problem until you have spoken to someone. Once you have spoken out, then you can decide if it is a problem. Read more here.
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